The romantic lifestyle of people today is significantly different than what people of the past engaged in. We have dating websites to help match us with compatible partners, individuals are able to have openly gay relationships, we are dating more out of our race, but mainly we are "cohabiting" before marriage more than ever before.
Living together before marriage or without the expectation of marriage is as American as apple pie now a days and many couples are "shacking up" despite the negative assumptions. If you were raised like myself, in a religious household where marriage is seen as a union between a man and woman and thus "sacred" you were taught that you were only to engage in sexual acts after marriage After you began living with your husband or wife.
Looking at my social circle today, friends, and media this belief is dwindling because people are embracing a more modern take on this relationship taboo. Because of the current financial state of our country many couples are moving in together to make ends meet and or save for their wedding in the process. Also many couples are taking the step of moving in together so that they can strengthen their relationship by better getting to know each other.
Shacking up has both it's "Pros" and "Cons". So it's important to evaluate what you and your partner both expect should you decide to move in together. Here's my take on it.....
1. Take your time in deciding if this is the person you want to seriously commit to, don't just move in with someone because they're hot, have a great hook-up with the cable company, or because you're trying to save a buck.
2. Before you move in together, be very clear about what you expect. Do you both definitely plan to get married? Do neither of you want to get married? Do you see living together as a trial that will help you decide? You should both have a clear sense of what moving in together means to each of you.
3.Keep your expectations reasonable. Living together will not magically transform an "I'll never get married" guy into one who proposes on one knee. Sharing a kitchen and bedroom will not sweeten a bad relationship. Live together because your relationship is going well, not to try to make it better.